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Comment on Hello, again! by MeMyself&Who

MeMyself&Who — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 19:24:33 +0000

Ugh! Yeah I was trying to go to sleep and this weird smell of bad coffee & cigarette breath flooded in.

Things are super crazy right now but, will be starting on a 2 week break for the holidays on Friday! So hopefully if I don’t get to it tonight or the next two days I will post the latest news this weekend and try to get back into the habit of writing again.

Comment on Hello, again! by Austin

Austin — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 10:01:15 +0000

I wasn’t sure what on earth happened to ya. I was like, where’d she go?
Good to know you’re back and that there is self help to report.

When I’m super triggered I often smell cat urine. I’m not sure why but I do.

Comment on Leave General ? or Comment by airinom

airinom — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 06:25:40 +0000

Thank you for having a blog. it is very nice to hear. I wish you all the best.

Comment on Where I went “wrong” by Faith

Faith — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 16:23:18 +0000

They knew you’d trust them and took advantage of that trust. Of course I say that as a hypocrite. I guess intellectually I know my abusers skillfully manipulated me and banked on me trusting them yet I blame myself for so many of their actions. It’s a hard line to draw between their actions and mine. It’s not as if I did this to myself but I can find 100 different ways to make this something I did wrong.

I learned not to trust myself or anyone else. This lesson will be hard to unlearn.

Faith

Comment on Where I went “wrong” by Grace

Grace — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 03:58:01 +0000

I hear you…a little late, but I also can hear and relate to what you’re saying…
Thinking good thoughts for you….
~ Grace

Comment on Where I went “wrong” by Paul from Mind Parts

Paul from Mind Parts — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 18:31:39 +0000

I can sympathize with what you say. Hang in there… It’s good you know that you cannot force things.

Comment on “Congratulations, you’re feeling” by Where I went “wrong” « Inside Voices

Where I went “wrong” « Inside Voices — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 05:45:49 +0000

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Comment on Layers Upon Layers of Onion by LL

LL — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 01:19:37 +0000

i really understand what you are talking about.

there are inside names and outside names. there are some names i am not allowed to share with the outside. there are names that other parts call other parts, that are different than the names i use. i use general descriptive names more than i use proper names. the funny thing is, none of use our given name, but some will respond to it (others will not at all)

as i’ve become more and more co-conscious (and i am getting pretty stable in that respect), more names have come up. i find that when someone finally tells their name and allows me and others to use it, it means that part is becoming associated and co-conscious. about right now, about half of my system have static names, names that are enduring. the other half have multiple names or no name. i spend a little over half my time associated and co-conscious. there seems to be a correlation. this process of naming (and learning names) has been an important step for me.

another thing i noticed is that there are some core identities who are also dissociative, and split into multiple parts. there are also identities who only communicate with the others through a go-between. when i started examining this, i didn’t expect the level of complexity i found, although now, it seems quite reasonable, and i am starting to understand how it all fits together.

i really like learning about other people and their systems, too, especially now that i am starting to really describe mine, and feel the benefits, and triumphs of becoming more associative.

it really is like unpeeling an onion!

Comment on Having a problem with saying the wrong thing by kate1975

kate1975 — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 07:25:14 +0000

Hi,

I wanted to say that one of the biggest things I can do for msyelf(ves) is to not be too harsh when I do, say, and think the wrong things. I know it can hurt others. I know but I try hard to be the best I can and when I fall, I just try to get back up. It is inevitable. I’m still trying to let go of judging myself.

Good and healing thoughts to you.

Kate

Comment on Having a problem with saying the wrong thing by MeMyself&Who

MeMyself&Who — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 20:31:43 +0000

Hmm, thanks for the thoughts really giving me something to think on.
See, I’ve known too since I was pretty little. It’s a interesting thought you gave me cause the parts I have this trouble with came one when I was around 12 the other at 18. They’re kind of the newbies and the most unstable of the bunch, they call themselves the outcasts because they are so different (or at least that’s how the see it). I think all of us are trying to help them see they really are part of our whole group but it gets frustrating sometimes, these parts are just so wounded and off in that world. I think it’s probably true still, they do let it go easier than I do.
I think your dead right about the failure thing. There has been some major issues/feelings/triggers with that lately (before this ‘lashing’ out started). I think I feel a lot of guilt around these two parts in that sense too. Just another way to blame myself for what happened but…it wasn’t me that was at fault for not protecting me/them back then, it was the adults in my/our life that should have protected me/us & seen the signs of what was going on. I think I get the now and then concept mixed up around these two a lot. I couldn’t do it then, I can do it now but I’m petrified of screwing up.