Man, dunno really what’s going on as of late. Been quiet. Not in my head so much (although 2 or more days in a row I had that scary blank mind feeling when no one is around), just I’m not talking to people much, not posting much anywhere, not goofing off (Little Parts), not reading, not sure if I’m listening to music or not… Hasn’t been this bad in a while. Dunno if I should say bad since, I don’t know what it is. Just this hasn’t happened like this in a long while. I mean when I blackout, like last month, life and communication still went on. Makes me a bit nervous that Dth is really loose again. Hate to think about it too much. Dunno maybe there is just too much in general going on and that’s all. Don’t know at all…
Anyway, I guess I will try to get around this numbness/cut off and try to write this post.
Spent therapy today trying to explain that latest map but had to redraw it as best I could since I left the original here at home. It was still trippy to look at. There’s still so much that I left out about how things work, there’s time though right?
One of the things I’ve been thinking about for a long time and that has kind of come up again due to this ANP/EP stuff, along with some events happening to other Multi friends is this thing I call The Ripple Effect.
Emotions are complex to begin with. Emotions like loss are hard for anyone. I feel like emotions for the Multiple are 20 billion times (or times your number of inner parts) harder. There are parts of me that just don’t understand the point or purpose of emotions and if they had it their way we’d be this numb/cut off THING all the time. The robot. Then there are those emotional parts that well, I don’t know if they think there is a purpose to emotions but they are certainly caught up in them lots of times.
I have emotions, I’m just not very connected to them yet. I watch them happen to “others” and I watch them get played out in this strange way.
It might start with just one part. Like when we lost a good friendship, there was that old 5 stages of grieving. Only for me it started with just that one part, when it was done with one stage another part picked up on what was happening and started their own 5 stages, and then another part picked up on the events, and another… It felt like it was never going to end, just when I thought “I” was over it “someone” picked it up. (Ex: B might feel very sad, the sadness “leaks”, to a younger teen who then gets “word” of what’s happened and feels angry, anger leaks to a Little who find out what’s going on and takes up bargaining, by this time B might be on some other stage completely or the young teen & B could both be sad now.) Even today there are so many events that are still working their way through the system. Never seem to know how fast or slow news is going to travel in here!
I guess I know to some extent that happens to Singletons (Non-Multiples) too (Read EnglishRain’s post for related topic). They often keep working out emotions. I feel like it’s probably easier though for them, there’s probably not that extreme cut off, they probably have more support than some of us, they likely were taught self-soothing/coping skills, and I wonder about the intensity. It seems to me when these emotional events ripple through me they keep the same intensity as when they first happened. B is somewhat better now about losing the friend I think like most people every once and awhile she revisits one stage/emotion but the intensity is slowly less. The Little Ones are still slowly working through and the intensity seems to remain. I remember when the loss it me and it was really a strange feeling since I had been like an outsider watching before. I don’t think I had a clue that the loss could effect me until it hit. I think I’m still slowly going through some stages/emotions, no clue how long that could take.
Each part of me has to work it out in their own way (well, now with help and within reason) and time. Then there are those pars of me that still insist that it’s an unnecessary waste of time and energy. It is exhausting but I think that with time and work in therapy it will get better, I’ll get the hang of this feeling thing.
Not really sure I said this all exactly the way I wanted to I hope it made some sense. I kind of just forced myself to do this post late last night hoping it might help me get out of this not writing funk. Not sure it really did, just a little. I’ll take it I guess. 🙂
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